Monica Wants It: If it’s an accident, why is it someone’s fault?

If you follow me on Twitter, you know by now that we were involved in a car accident yesterday evening. We’re ok, our dog is ok, and our car is not.

We were driving from Beeville to San Antonio to spend the night at my mom’s house because today we were supposed to view our dream house and then head on over to Fiesta Texas for a fabulous, exciting day. Everything was going just peachy until this crazy white van headed into our lane and we were about to have a head on collision. Daniel being a great driver and quick thinker, swerved to the right to avoid the head on collision. Unfortunately, to our right was a 2008 Ford F-150 that we hit. And by hit, I mean our car is screwed up and the truck needs a slight paint touch up. Yeah. The van kept driving on it’s merry way while we tried to regain control of the car (because all parties involved were going at least 60 mph) and I remember looking back and just seeing the white van drive off. I don’t think I’ve been angrier at any point in my life than when I saw the person who caused all this to happen just drive off. Like it’s nothing. Like my husband, dog, and I are nothing.

Dear White Van & Wilson County State Troopers,

You suck. Why? Because I clearly saw your sorry ass texting while driving, which is why you veered into our lane. Not only that, but you are slow as molasses because if you would have corrected yourself just 3 feet, Daniel wouldn’t have swerved, and we wouldn’t have hit the other truck. You suck.

I’ll further elaborate- you drove off!! YOU drove OFF. You LEFT. You left us to wait on the side of the road for a State Trooper to come. Did they? NO! After one hour of waiting on the side of the road, we all got tired and called the State Trooper again. What did he say? For us to please drive to Floresville. 20 miles away. After we had just been in a CAR accident. State troopers from Wilson County- you suck, too. The accident happened at 8:06, we left Floresville close to 10:00 pm and got home at 11ish. Good thing none of us were seriously hurt because we would have been asked to drive to the hospital ourselves. After a CAR accident.

Back to the white van. After you drove off, I started thinking of what you did to us. Your negligence caused us to miss out on our fun day, it caused us to have to pay our $500 deductible, it caused us to waste our $40 Fiesta Texas tickets, and it’s surely going to cause our insurance premium to go up when our renewal comes up in January. I won’t say you ruined our lives, but you surely didn’t help matters any. Since you didn’t stop at the scene of the accident, you don’t know that we’re newlyweds who are pinching every penny possible to save up for a house. You also don’t know we had our dog Pee Wee with us. We love him more than anything, and if he would have been hurt, you can bet I would find you. I will always remember your face. Too bad I don’t remember your license plate. That’d be more useful right about now. So, thanks for making us waste $500+ from our nest fund because of your stupidity and complete disregard of others. You are selfish.

Dear People,

Please do not text while driving. Just don’t. Is it really worth it to possibly end up in an accident or causing one? I don’t think it is. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes- the mom who just got off work and just picked up the kids from daycare, the dad who is coming home from his son’s baseball game after a long shift at work, the newlyweds going to enjoy a cheap day at a theme park. Is whatever you’re texting THAT important to completely turn someone’s life upside down for a few days? I highly doubt it. Put the phone down and drive. Drive safely. Be alert. Don’t speed. Speeding is another pet peeve of mine because it’s also highly selfish. Speeding leads to drivers driving thisclose to try to intimidate someone to speed up or move out of the way. Why are we bullying each other? Is it worth it? Is the speeding ticket worth it? Is it worth it to get the finger thrown at and yelled at? Is it worth it to cause a car accident?

Again, I don’t think so.

I motion that we all just follow the speed limits set (however crazy they may be- yeah, I’m talking about you Pettus, Texas with a 35 mph speed limit) and that we all be safe. If not for others, then for yourself. Aren’t we all worth it?

I think so.

I am always nervous while driving, and I am always terrified of having a car accident. Always. Mainly because I see people texting or driving too fast. I have also been in cars where the driver is speeding and/or texting, and I never say anything even if I am scared beyond all reason. I think I’m going to speak up from now on- nicely of course. Not only because of my safety, but for others’ safety, too. Have we really gotten to a point of selfishness that we can’t care about others? I don’t know, but I sure hope not.

The funniest thing did arise from all this. I called Progressive and they were talking to me about injuries. They asked if I was ok, I said yes. They asked if Daniel was ok, and I said yes. Then they asked if Mr. Cruz-Benavidez was ok…and I was like, huh? Who?

Um, the dog.

Progressive covers doggies, too. And I forgot I had put Pee Wee’s name as Pee Wee Cruz Benavidez. It may seem silly, but I was happy that Progressive cared about Pee Wee.

Or, Mr. Cruz-Benavidez.

And because I hate picture-less posts, I am going to end on a positive note. I am alive, we have the money to cover the deductible, we did not get hurt, and I thank God for that. I am going to try and let this go knowing that kharma will take care of the white van driver. And if it doesn’t, I just hope he was scared into being a safer driver so that he doesn’t cause this sort of thing ever again.

Things I am grateful for: